What My Parents were Doing at My Current Age

At my age my parents were working all the time, just like they always have. At that point in their lives I always wondered why they were still together because they seemed to dislike each other. I had just moved out of their house into my first place, so they turned my room into an office, and my mother moved into one of the other bedrooms. When they weren’t working, they rarely spent time together, and never really spent much time together at any point after I moved out. My mother would hang out at one end of the house, and my father would hang out at the other end, if they were even home at all.

And when I would come over, my parents would pretend they were still sleeping in the same room, but I knew they weren’t. They were driving each other crazy and became unbearable to be around because my mom would criticize my dad and get annoyed that people were talking to him at family events. It was really hard to be around them.

My dad passed away suddenly almost 2 years ago and my mom pretty much acted like she didn’t care, and I had to plan the entire funeral service etc, by myself because my mom wanted no part of it. And my mom is still impossible to be around.

Fortunately my husband and I are definitely NOT like my parents at all. Thank god! My husband and I sometimes talk about my parents and how odd their relationship was. I once found an anniversary card where my mom had written something like: Well, we made it to 30 years. It hasn’t always been easy, but we’re figuring it out. Happy Anniversary! Here’s to many more more!

I just find it odd that she would write something like that when she clearly disliked my dad. And on that particular anniversary she berated my dad and bitched at him in front of all of us………just like she always did.