Here and there I have run across some interesting people who when I first meet them, I think, “Oh, I am totally going to piss them off at some point.” And I have this thought because I realize that they need a lot of attention, more than most of us can give someone…… Probably a personality disorder…… Or whatever. They feel misunderstood by everyone around them…… So of course I can manage that, but I wait for the other shoe to drop at all times.
This one person who lost their shit on me managed to be OK with me for about 10 years, but not with others. I would listen to all of their complaints about so-and-so said this, or they did that, blah, blah, blah. I talked them off the ledge. I think the reason things were OK for so long was because I only saw them at certain events about every other month or so…… And that help them not get too crazy, less contact. And I just agreed with everything they said because it just wasn’t worth the trouble to not agree.
Well, this person finally lost their shit on me big time. I mean it was not just the other shoe dropping, it was the entire shoe store. OMG. The text messages…..the Facebook messages and posts……over something that honestly was not that big a deal. AND, they created the problem! They had control over the entire situation, but chose to be the victim. They told me I was killing people, ruining lives, that I should be ashamed of myself, so I asked them why did they offer what they offered if they didn’t actually want anyone to take part? Why did you post what you posted on Facebook and asked people to help?
They told me that I was impossible and they just couldn’t deal with me. I went into therapist mode and kept pointing out things to resolve the situation, and they did not like that at all because they are so used to people just appeasing them. So they started bad mouthing me on Facebook to everyone who would listen. People didn’t know they were talking about me, so they were trying to tell them how sorry they were that this was happening, but then…..people figured out what they were talking about, and they walked away from the situation. I blocked this person everywhere because they would not leave me alone, and kept harassing me and threatening me. They clearly did not want to resolve anything.
I noticed that I am slightly traumatized by this situation……or rather I was, because it was almost two years ago, but it still affects me on some level. I am definitely cured from trying to be friends with people who are “eccentric” or “misunderstood”. No thanks.
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